On Connection

It rarely feels like a lack of options.

You meet people, you go on dates, you’re on the apps. From the outside, there is no obvious shortage. And yet, something still feels limited - not in quantity, but in fit.

This is where many professionals misread their situation. The issue is not that there ar...

You wouldn’t hire a professional based on chemistry alone.
So why are you choosing a life partner that way?

I’ve spent over a decade in recruitment and hired thousands of professionals. And the same patterns that lead to poor hiring decisions? I see them in dating every day.

1. You’re Optimising fo...

Rejection hurts more than most people expect. Whether it shows up as a breakup, being ghosted, or realising someone is not choosing you back, it can shake your confidence far beyond the situation itself. At the same time, rejection is one of the clearest sources of feedback in relationships - not ab...

Many successful men feel confident in their careers yet uncertain in dating.
This confidence gap in dating is one of the most common modern relationship challenges for men aged 25 - 45 - especially in achievement-driven environments like Zürich and across Europe.

Despite professional success, financi...

Casual dating works well for a lot of people. For some, it’s a clear, honest choice - aligned with where they are in life and what they want right now.

If you don’t want a serious relationship, and casual dating feels clean, enjoyable, and uncomplicated, this article isn’t really for you.

But if you...

Most first dates feel like they unfold over an hour or two. In reality, something far more decisive happens much earlier.

Across multiple strands of psychological and neuroscience research, the evidence points to the same conclusion: first dates are largely decided in the first seconds to minutes, l...