On Connection

You wouldn’t hire someone without knowing what you’re looking for.

In your career, that would feel careless, expensive and even irresponsible. 

You define the role.
You know what matters.
You have a sense of what would make someone a strong fit - and what wouldn’t.

There’s a structure to how you ...

You wouldn’t hire a professional based on chemistry alone.
So why are you choosing a life partner that way?

I’ve spent over a decade in recruitment and hired thousands of professionals. And the same patterns that lead to poor hiring decisions? I see them in dating every day.

1. You’re Optimising...

If you’re an intelligent man who hasn’t had much dating success, you’ve probably asked yourself a quiet, uncomfortable question:

“What am I missing?”

You’re thoughtful. You’re respectful. You listen.
You’re capable in your work and reliable in your life.

And yet, dating feels confusing, ineffic...

Let’s get one thing straight:

You’re not “broken” because you have baggage. You’re human.

Every person walking into a new relationship brings along experiences - past heartbreaks, disappointments, lessons, and beliefs shaped by the past. That’s baggage. But baggage isn’t inherently bad. It’s a sig...

Attraction can feel like magic - but science shows there’s a method behind the sparks. In 2025, research continues to reveal why we’re drawn to some people and not others, uncovering patterns in psychology, social behavior, and emotional connection.

Whether you’re swiping on dating apps or meeting ...

 When I finally decided it was the right time to sign up for coaching, I had two main objectives:

1. To identify and uncover blind spots that were holding me back from finding the love I wanted
2. To stay accountable to my goal

During my introductory call, my coach, Trea Tijmans, told me somethi...