On Connection

You wouldn’t hire a professional based on chemistry alone.
So why are you choosing a life partner that way?

I’ve spent over a decade in recruitment and hired thousands of professionals. And the same patterns that lead to poor hiring decisions? I see them in dating every day.

1. You’re Optimising...

If you’re an intelligent man who hasn’t had much dating success, you’ve probably asked yourself a quiet, uncomfortable question:

“What am I missing?”

You’re thoughtful. You’re respectful. You listen.
You’re capable in your work and reliable in your life.

And yet, dating feels confusing, inefficien...

Let’s get one thing straight:

You’re not “broken” because you have baggage. You’re human.

Every person walking into a new relationship brings along experiences - past heartbreaks, disappointments, lessons, and beliefs shaped by the past. That’s baggage. But baggage isn’t inherently bad. It’s a sig...

There are few things more fascinating than attraction.

Most of us have experienced it. You meet someone new and, almost instantly, something clicks. Conversation flows effortlessly, you're excited to see them again, and before long you're wondering whether this could become something more.

Beca...

When I finally decided it was the right time to sign up for coaching, I had two main objectives:

1. To identify and uncover blind spots that were holding me back from finding the love I wanted
2. To stay accountable to my goal

During my introductory call, my coach, Trea Tijmans, told me something b...

If you’d told 22-year-old me - fresh out of university with a biology degree in hand - that one day I’d be a love coach, I would have had a chuckle to myself. At the time, my career was headed in a very different direction. I loved understanding systems, patterns, and the “why” behind how things wor...