From Biologist to Love Coach: Why Science Matters in Romance

If you’d told 22-year-old me - fresh out of university with a biology degree in hand - that one day I’d be a love coach, I would have had a chuckle to myself. At the time, my career was headed in a very different direction. I loved understanding systems, patterns, and the “why” behind how things worked. That’s what drew me to science in the first place.

Fast forward a decade, and I’d built a thriving career in Talent Acquisition - another place where human behaviour fascinated me. But, while my work life was flourishing, my love life felt… more like a long-term experiment. So far, with inconclusive results!

When I went through my breakup at 32, it felt like the universe was giving me a not-so-subtle nudge: something has to change. Two things happened. First, the emotional part of me finally admitted I didn’t want to keep repeating the same story. Then, the scientist in me woke up - and I realised that if I wanted a different outcome, I needed to change the inputs.

At work, when faced with something new, I gather data, seek expertise from others, and look for patterns. Now, it was time to apply those same skills to my love life. I worked with award-winning dating coach Trea Tijmans, who helped me uncover my blind spots and taught me to approach dating with clarity, intentionality, and yes - a strategy.

The result? After 12 months, countless dates, and a few trial candidates, I met him — my person.

But that wasn’t the end of the story. I was so inspired by the process that I decided to train under Dr. Terri Orbuch in Science-Based Dating Coaching. The same evidence-backed methods that transformed my love life are now the foundation of how I help others find their person.

Because here’s the truth: love is emotional, but it’s not random. As renowned Dating Coach and Behavioural Scientist, Logan Ury, says, 'fuck the spark'. It might feel magical, but the science of human attraction, communication, and long-term compatibility is well-researched - and when you understand it, you can make love less of a guessing game.

My approach combines science-based strategies - drawing on the groundbreaking research of Dr. Terri Orbuch, the Gottmanns, and many other leading relationship experts. It blends evolutionary biology’s understanding of attraction and bonding with behavioural science insights into communication and conflict resolution. And - because love is never just about data - I bring in a little bit of soul; the human, emotional experience that makes connection meaningful.

Love doesn’t need to be left up to luck. You can be intentional, strategic, and still keep the romance alive - just like I did.

And now? I’m here to help you do the same!